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петак, 6. јун 2014.

How to Be Cool

Are you considered "not cool" in school? You might have already read up on how to be cool, but you might be wondering: How do I apply that in a new school?

Always remember, the first day of school can be crucial. First impressions are important. It's how people will get to know you , for a while at least, until they get to know you better, which will take time. Be kind and nice and people will know you as a good person.
If you are a total newcomer, try to find people who have similar interests to your own, which will provide an easy icebreaker conversation. Being new is a benefit, because (unless you were very popular at your old school) you'll have a whole new, fresh start and a chance to get a new identity. 

Try to identify who's where on the "social ladder", but on the first day, just try to get settled in! If you are new, your main goal on the first day should just be to make friends! Be friendly and socialize with as many people as you can without getting them mixed up. Do not try to be friends with them only because they are "popular." However, after you've been in school for a while and are settled in, you can befriend one of the nicer popular people, they'll be your ticket into "the group." At the end of your first year in the school, try to have found some close friends to regularly spend time with. Having a wide variety of friends helps a lot.

Avoid being a bully and avoid becoming the victim of one. Don't be mean to other people in your school just to make yourself seem cooler. In fact, people generally hate bullies. Also, don't let bullies push you around. It's easier said than done, but in school, using your sense of humor and your good social tactics are the key. 

Remember as confusing as this next sentence will sound, think about it. Don't care about what you think other people think of you. Just go with the flow. If you know for sure someone is judging you, you can voice it, then just act like you don't care, because you don't. Practice thinking this way and your confidence will improve via self-acceptance. People at school will start wondering where you got all this self esteem!

Have your own sense of style. Discover the clothes you prefer/like to wear and create your style. Wear those clothes to school and be unique, but try to know what's fashionable and be up-to-date! Be ahead of the pack. Be a leader, not a follower, that's what makes you cool. Don't worry about the people who judge you about your clothing. Hang out with friends who like your personality, sense of fashion, etc. 

Be independent. You don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be cool. Only go out with someone if you actually like each other, don't just find a boyfriend/girlfriend who is popular, so you will seem cooler. Love isn't about popularity. Actually if you become close friends with a guy/girl then it might be even more fun going to dances, hanging out, you don't need to be in love. If you have a secret crush, try getting really close to them then eventually they might even fall for you too!

Be open-minded. This is very vital. Some people have different opinions and tastes so don't go gossiping about them just because they don't agree with you. 

Respect people. Respect others beliefs and cultures. Being respectful to others even if they aren't your friends shows that you don't discriminate people based on anything because they are not your friends.

Smile. Don't put a fake one on either. Just try to keep it natural. Don't be sarcastic to people until you're on good terms with them, don't act like you need attention, and don't look like you're trying too hard. Be patient. Keep on doing your thing. Someone's bound to notice. 

Have a nice hairstyle. Try a buzz cut, cool hairline, or laxer flow if you're a boy, side bangs if you're a girl. Straightening or perming your hair is also very cute or at least find a cute hairstyle that fits your face, and your fashion.

Be fit, clean, and smell good. The first two are compulsory. Brush your teeth, exercise, and etc. Third of all, you don't have to smell perfect, just don't smell bad. A bit of deodrant and a bit of perfume is good enough, not too much. Adding too much will just make your rating go way down.

Always remember that attitude is a key factor in how people look at you. Have a great personality, be talkative, nice, and have charisma. As you get to know others, figure out who is comfortable and nice to you, and those who are not the nicest to you. If you come across anyone who doesn't like you, just treat him/her like how you'd treat everyone else. 

Remember: 'Social ladders' as they appear in high or middle school generally disappear when you graduate. Why? It is mostly because kids who have constructed the social ladder will suddenly develop brains and realize that the world doesn't work that way. Once free from this social structure, you should be more than comfortable being yourself in a world which is rapidly accepting new personalities. 

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